My Online Dating Experiences
I believe that my profile, as well as what I am looking for, is honest and relatively unremarkable. I’m currently in the second half of my 50’s and I live in the Cleveland, Ohio area. My Internet dating adventure began in May of 2009. Initially I started on one site and over time ended up trying four. I found the process to be interesting but also frustrating. Oftentimes someone would wink at you or begin chatting (IM) or emailing. Then you have a few conversations and sometimes never hear from that person again. (Just when you thought it was going pretty well!!) I asked friends about this and it turns out that this was, apparently, common practice. Later I found myself doing the exact same same thing. I’d be in the middle of a communication cycle with someone and then a more interesting, someone came along and I’d simply stop all other communications that I was having. I guess we can all learn to be more polite.
My very first online dating experience put me into the cougar category. This was not because I was looking for a younger man, I much prefer men my own age. Although a hot young body is pretty fabulous, when it comes right down to it, I actually find men in my age group -those who are reasonably fit- much more sexy and hot. The first man that I dated was twenty years my junior and that relationship lasted a total of three dates over the course of as many months. We talked on the phone, emailed and IM’d almost every day. He was a bright, good looking guy, fun to chat with and convinced me to see him. One day we were chatting online (IM) when he turned on his web cam and he was stark naked, with the focus being on one particular part of his anatomy. I don’t know what else to say about that except thank goodness that there was geographical distance between us, and that he never knew where I lived. He turned out to be a bit of a stalker after I told him that I no longer wanted to see him. He could not understand the word “no” the fact that I was simply not interested in him. I finally told him that I had found someone in my age group that I liked very much and I wanted to pursue that relationship. You would think that would be a deterrent, but no. He continued to contact me for months after until I finally blocked him from all communication media. I chalked this "relationship" up as a starter for myself as it ultimately gave me some confidence in the dating arena.
My next meeting was with a man who I will call Doug. I was hopeful. He was in my designated age range and sounded interesting. Doug and I exchanged a few IMs and had a few phone calls. He had a good sense of humor and was intelligent. We agreed to meet at a coffee shop in a bookstore. On the agreed upon day and time we met outside the book store and decided to first take a walk and browsed through the mall shops before sitting down for a cup of coffee. In case you did not notice from my profile, I like men a little taller than myself and was looking for a minimum of five feet and ten inches in height. Doug’s profile said that he was five foot nine inches. I figured I could go down an inch with my height requirement.
When we were walking, I noticed was that he was exactly as tall as I was, and I was wearing flat-heeled shoes. I surmised that he was not five foot nine inches tall. Fine, I thought, I’m here now and he seems like a nice man, let’s see where this goes. We had a cup of coffee together, but for me there was no spark. I was already chuckling to myself because this man ended most sentences with “and what not.” After an hour or so of “what-nots” we decided to call it a night. He walked me to my car and grabbed me for a hug and a kiss good night. Whoa!! His tongue came out and his hands went to inappropriate places. I extricated myself, thanked him for meeting me, and was dying to get the hell away from him as quickly as possible. I was not prepared for that with a man that I’d only been face-to-face with for an hour. Had he held back on his moves, I may have gone out with him a second time. Sometimes it takes a little more time to get to know someone. I told my friends about the meeting and they seemed to get a great deal of joy using the term “and what not” for some months afterward.
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More tomorrow…
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All characters appearing in this work are fictitious. Any resemblance to real persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental.
My original book "The Jeffrey Chronicles: The Span of an Online Romance" is available in hardcover, paperback and as an ebook (Kindle, etc.).
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