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Surprise, surprise, surprise...
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Much has transpired over the course of the past year. These days it makes me laugh to think about Jeff and his behavior. He’s a perfect example of an individual who will never find lasting love or real happiness, and certainly there will no peace for him – in this life (or the next). He is a shell of a man and quite the joke as a human being. I understand that his daughter has had another child and his son is engaged to be married. Let’s hope that the son does not emulate the father (again), how sad would that be?
Some of you may know that I was about to take my blog off-line at the end of September of 2010. Something pretty strange occurred at that time which convinced me to put it back up –at least for a bit. (We’ll call it kismet.) I have an email account, associated with my blog and one for my book sales. I thought I should check my email accounts before I moved forward with deleting the blog postings. Much to my surprise, I had received the following email:
From: Tracy
Date: Mon, Sep 27, 2010 at 6:28 PM
Subject: Jeffrey
Dear Karin,
I don't know where to begin. I was googling Jeff and happened upon your site, only to discover that the man I fell in love with, is the same man about whom you write. I, too, have 1,500+ pages to show for it. And unfortunately, our relationships with Jeff overlapped, by quite a bit, with yours occuring within mine.....
Reading the conversations you and Jeff had, was like entering the Twilight Zone, as it seemed like I was the author of it all....but I wasn't, you were. To discover another woman has shared my pain gives me a mixed bag of emotions.... pain, bewilderment, and quite a bit of anger, and also relief..... that I can finally put all this behind me.... knowing he was lying to me from all angles.... (I knew about the unhappy relationship....but not the engagement....or marriage....until I discovered it in the Time Trax band review...!!)
Quite frankly, I am really nervous about writing to you. I have not gone the public route, nor do I care to, for my own personal reasons. If you are in contact with Jeff, I respectfully ask that you don't mention my writing. I would like to keep this between us girls. I remain anynonomous at the moment, until I am feeling more comfortable about sharing more.
Please, please write back.... my heart is aching in regards to all this....
Thanks.
My reply was:
Date: Mon, Sep 27, 2010 at 10:23 PM
Re: Jeffrey
Wow! ...is all I have to say. Amazing! If you can tell me Jeff's last name, well, then we may have a conversation.
In turn received the following message:
Date: Mon, Sep 27, 2010 at 6:34 PM
Subject: Jeffrey
Karin,
Since I think we both know how to sufficiently use our computers to research......just want to save some time for you...the name Tracey Fox has no meaning here whatsoever.... I am just really concerned about remaining confidential, at least at the moment...!!
Thanks for your understanding.
Sent the following reply:
Date: Mon, Sep 27, 2010 at 10:25 PM
Re: Jeffrey
Sure, I'm not planning on sharing anyone's last name here...but I do find it interesting that you use the same "smile" reference that Jeff used...: < g >
Got the following return reply:
Date: Mon, Sep 27, 2010 at 10:54 PM
Subject: Jeffrey
I think that's where I learned it. His name is Jeffery X. Xxxxxxxxx. He is an attorney at Xxxxx Xxxx. His birthday is Dec 23rd. He has a son and daughter. I've been up reading your site, and it is unbelievable to me (not in a good way) that you've had such similiar experiences and conversations with him..... as I have.
His chats and emails included alot of: , sigh, ugh, and his pet names for me are doll, young lady, hon, dear and babe.
He has quit wit, is charming, and knows just what to say.... the realization that he was also in a relationship with you....with so many similiar discussions and topics.....including the wildly flirtatious ones........has me hurting pretty badly right now..... no offense to you, of course, as you were fed the same bill of goods....
I also have the facebook photo from Karen's profile...she is in a purple dress...and like the good hubby, he has on a matching tie....I was mortified when I first saw that photo.....
please write....
...and more:
Date: Mon, Sep 27, 2010 at 11:24PM
Subject: Jeffrey
Hi - I know if must also be bizarre, for you to hear from me. I thought maybe a few quotes from emails....would be helpful in you recognize his writing style....and thus being certain....that I am not a random prankster here.....but another woman feeling quite scorned at the moment! ....(and I am sure there are many other things I could share with you....that would have you knowing that I'm the real deal...)
"The main thing I wanted to say in the few secs I have here is that you never need to convince me to spend time with you.....Banish that thought...I think about seeing you all the time....dream about seeing you all the time......Fantasize about seeing you all the time....(Sorry if that's too much..!!..).....The only thing that holds me back is concern about whether I'm doing the right thing by you in the long run.....(i.e., if nothing changes for me with Karen...).....I just sometimes feel that I get selfish in wanting you in my arms on a daily basis, when Im not giving you a complete relationship back at this time."
"You know, hon......just about every sentence you write (properly wordsmithed, I'd note..!! ).......sends a palpable tingle through me........I just wanna melt into you when I read your notes....!!
So, I don't think you're gonna hafta tie me to stay....(Do I hafta tie you..!!!?? ..)...
I just wish it was today.......sigh...."
I have so much more I could send...but it's late...and I can't think about all this anymore today......hafta get some sleep....!
My next reply:
Date: Tue, Sep 28, 2010 at 8:37 AM
Re: Jeffrey
It is VERY bizarre, to say the least. However, I'm over this man as well as being over the entire situation. If what you say is all true, the most that I can do is say that we were both "suckered." I hope that you are able to forget about it - after all in the long run it was not a satisfying relationship --for me at least.
If you are sincere, (I don't want to sound mean)...I'm not looking to start a support group. I don't know if you are still seeing this psychopath -he's more insane than I originally thought him to be- but...you don't really need to share anything with me.
However, if you feel the need to continue to communicate with me, that's fine. Although, I don't really have anything meaningful to say that can or would help you feel any better.
If you are sincere, (I don't want to sound mean)...I'm not looking to start a support group. I don't know if you are still seeing this psychopath -he's more insane than I originally thought him to be- but...you don't really need to share anything with me.
However, if you feel the need to continue to communicate with me, that's fine. Although, I don't really have anything meaningful to say that can or would help you feel any better.
Well, what a surprise, huh? (...or maybe not) Of course “Tracey” and I have continued communicating on a regular basis. We’ve compared our “Jeffrey notes” – filled in “the blanks” in some topics of conversation for each other, about this man and shared thoughts about his behavior. He used the same bullshit lines for each of us and I would imagine that there have been many more women (i.e., Vikki). I also suspect that his first wife caught up with his shenanigans and that all the money that he paid to her was not just alimony but was also a settlement of some sort for his transgressions (alienation of affections... or whatever) ...apparently close to a million bucks in total. Apparently Jeff thinks that is was worth it to continue with his behavior...and that brings us to today.
Tracey spent 18 months believing Jeff’s lies (yep, before his marriage to Karen, and after his marriage to Karen with an “e.” I guess that his wife, Karen, was correct when she said to me (at the end of my experience with Jeff) that he was “also sleeping with others” and I wonder if she knows how many “others” there are.
My ultimate conclusion is that Jeff’s nature is that of a predator and if the times were different, I don’t doubt that he may have the ability to be a “Jack the Ripper” – a somewhat chilling thought, but he is a narcissistic psychopath...and I think that he hates women - why else would someone do these sorts of things?
I also know he confides all of his extra-curricular activities in his best buddy Barry...so shame on you too Barry!
When you (readers) have a moment, take a look at the definition (of Jeff) on this website: http://www.thenarcissistandpsychopath.yolasite.com/the-psychopath.php
- it fits him to perfection. Including the following definition of a predator: By definition, the exploiter is grossly indifferent to the damaging effect of his behavior on his victim. All that matters is his perceived gain, his demanded, greedy satisfaction. There is indifference to the loss and damage to others resulting from his self-centered, behaviors.
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More tomorrow??
Not sure when I'll be back to this blog. I'm finding myself a bit busy with other activities these days... ;}
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